Intellectually, you understand that your decision to leave the job early, end the relationship, or take runner-up for the role you auditioned for, doesn't mean you're a failure. But the hum of unease tells a different story.

This shift — from I am bad to I was hurt — is not semantic. It is the difference between a wound that can heal and a verdict that cannot be appealed.

You've probably been told to "listen to your body" more times than you can count. Trust your gut. Notice what you're feeling. And maybe you've nodded along — while privately thinking: I have no idea how to do that.