Managing a body versus living in one
When rejection happens, as it inevitably does, your nervous system is flooded with uncertainty.
No One Wants to Be Cured of Who They Are
Philip Bromberg has a sentence I keep coming back to: "No one will allow themselves to be cured of who they are."
In the last post I wrote about his idea that an eating disorder isn't a malfunction but a split-off part of the self, one that learned to control what it was never helped to regulate. This post is about what that means for getting better.
Why Do I Feel Like Something Is Wrong With Me?
Most people think of boundaries as a task problem: the meeting you learn to decline, the favor you finally say no to, the project you hand back instead of absorbing. Task boundaries are the easy version of the problem, and you've probably already solved for those.
Emotional boundaries ask something harder — knowing where you end and someone else begins.
Why Do I Feel Like Something Is Wrong With Me?
When rejection happens, as it inevitably does, your nervous system is flooded with uncertainty.
Why Doing Everything "Right" Still Doesn't Feel Safe
Is it possible to feel lonely while sitting right next to your partner? Explore the "unthought known" and learn the difference between painful loneliness and the healthy solitude needed for true intimacy.
Am I a Failure?
Intellectually, you understand that your decision to leave the job early, end the relationship, or take runner-up for the role you auditioned for, doesn't mean you're a failure. But the hum of unease tells a different story.
How Mourning Heals What Self-Improvement Can't
This shift — from I am bad to I was hurt — is not semantic. It is the difference between a wound that can heal and a verdict that cannot be appealed.
Finding the Self Within the "We": Navigating Solitude and Loneliness in Couples
Is it possible to feel lonely while sitting right next to your partner? Explore the "unthought known" and learn the difference between painful loneliness and the healthy solitude needed for true intimacy.
